What Is A Normal Relationship?

Valentine’s Day will soon be here.

Have you wondered if your love life is normal?

by Wally Johnston (c) 2013

Several years into our marriage my wife and I began hearing about the lives of our friends and acquaintances that involved broken or weird relationships. My wife coined a phrase, “We are the only normal ones left.” Now that our relationship is more “seasoned,” we realize that we aren’t so normal after all!

It is normal to want to be normal, right? So what is normal when it comes to our love relationships? That was the purpose of a new study. Over 100,000 people from all over the world were surveyed.

What did they find?

• Nearly half (40%) said they had sex three to four times a week. (It must be time to increase my vitamin intake!).

• Who tends to fall in love at first sight? You guessed it, men, 48% to women at 28%.

• Later I’ll disclose a big secret that was discovered! So keep reading.

In a new book released today titled *The Normal Bar they didn’t look at average as being “normal” rather how normal is correlated with happiness. Among these happy couples, 62% considered themselves in the “happiest” category, with 14% saying they were “extremely happy.”

Overall, there seems to be a greater number of happier couples than I expected. The survey did show that there is “romance starvation” going on that needs addressing. You can read more about that in the book.

So what was that secret I promised you?  The study revealed that 43% of men and 33% of women say they are keeping a major secret from their partner!

I’m sorry. I have to wrap this up. I need to find out if my wife has any secrets I need to know about!


*The Normal Bar by Chrisanna Northrup, Pepper Schwartz and James Witte.  For further articles on the subject of sexual intimacy I recommend Intimacy In Marriage.

Next week, just in time for Valentine’s Day, the topic will be “Know Your Love Language.”

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