I recently went on a church retreat. Some churches call it an “advance.” I guess they think retreating means turning tail and running away. Actually, the word “treat” means anything that affords particular pleasure or enjoyment. The dictionary says a retreat is a place of refuge, seclusion, privacy and also a period of retirement for religious exercises and meditation. Doesn’t that sound like something you would see as an advantage to you personally and in your relationship?
Sometimes relationships need retreating! A relationship retreat helps by:
- Stepping back and getting a different perspective.
- It gives us a time to think without distractions including: television, computer, a personal listening device, email, phone calls, etc. Many of us don’t take a time to retreat from these modern-day annoyances…I mean tools J
- A relationship retreat gives us time to journal about our relationship.
- Giving us enough space to avoid any negative emotions and an opportunity to see the positive in your relationship. What are those things you appreciate about the other person?
- Write a note of appreciation to the other person (not an email but an actual hard copy, handwritten note).
How does one take such a retreat?
- Take a vacation day and get away by yourself.
- Go with your loved one to a retreat center. Schedule some alone time and then share what you have learned from your time there.
- If you can’t take off work, each of you can choose an evening to go to separate restaurants for dinner and journal about what you appreciate about the other.
- Come up with your own ideas.
When was the last time you took a relationship retreat? Has your relationship gotten stale or in a rut? Do you value your relationship enough take such a retreat?
If you participate in a relationship retreat, please make a moment here on the blog and let us all know how it went. That will encourage the rest of us to learn from your example.by