A Thankful Woman


What happens when a woman is thankful?

Webster’s definition of ‘Thankful’ is – conscious of benefit received.

It’s good to look both ways – at how the world can be affected, and dare I say – CHANGED – when men AND women are thankful, but today I am going to talk from my perspective, and since I am a woman, that’s the perspective you are going to get.

I like taking a look at Webster’s definition, because there is a keyword in there that, I believe, makes all the difference. The word ‘conscious’. To know it, and then to choose it.

Eighteen years ago my husband nervously asked my Dad for my hand in marriage. One thing my father shared with Nate in the course of that conversation was, …‘Love is not a feeling. It’s a choice. There may be days you don’t “feel” like loving my daughter. But that’s when you choose to’. Love is a choice.

In the same way, I truly believe that thankfulness is a choice. We can receive benefits from others, and even from God, and we can choose to take it all for granted, to look at the things we DON’T have instead of the things we do or choose to just not be grateful, plain and simple. Thankfulness is a choice.

As a woman, wife, daughter, sister, friend, and mother, my choice in my attitude of thankfulness affects EVERYTHING. Every word I say to those around me. The mood and tone I set for my household. My interactions with the people God has placed in my life and in my path… my entire life is affected by my ‘attitude of gratitude’.

Our world tells us to want more “The latest and the greatest.”

Don’t like your car?

Get a new one,

A bigger one,

a more expensive one.

Don’t like your house?




And this husband or wife of yours,

Why not change them out while you’re at it!

Instead of taking a minute to stop and just be thankful for the old minivan because it gets you where you need to go…the fixer-upper because you and your hubby brought your babies home from the hospital here and beautiful memories have been made under the roof that’s needing a repair or two, and for the husband that has loved you and held you on your worst days, and for that wife who has listened and been there for you from the very start.

Why are we so easily ready to say “OUT WITH THE OLD, IN WITH THE NEW”…

We toss because we fail to take a second to be thankful.

When I sit and ponder all God has done for me, man, my heart can hardly contain my thankfulness. I feel like it is going to spill out and I can do nothing to contain it. It spills out in my marriage, in my friendships, in my motherhood.

God gave His one and His only Son to live a sacrificial life, and die a humiliating death for me and my sins. Everything else in this world pales to compare to what He has done. Shouldn’t I live THANKFULLY every single day??

And let’s face it… life can be tough. It can deal us hard, challenging, and downright heartbreaking issues and situations. There will, for sure, be days we don’t FEEL thankful. But that’s when we CHOOSE to be.

And after all, that’s what thankfulness is…a choice.

I choose it today. How about you?

Brandyn Quay was born in Texas and lived in Colorado before moving to Oregon when she was 10 years old. After high school she attended MidAmerica Nazarene University in Kansas, majoring in Business and Communications. She and her husband, Nathan, married in 2000 and lived in Kansas, Maryland, and Bulgaria, before ultimately making it full-circle back to Texas. Nate and Brandyn have four children, ranging in age from 13 to 9. Besides being a full-time momma, Brandyn is the CEO of her own Rodan+Fields skincare company, teaches group fitness classes and helps lead worship in the praise team at her church.  She enjoys hiking, playing games with her family, and writing. She has authored one book – Miracles In the Snow – a historical fiction for children.

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